Showing posts with label arranged marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label arranged marriage. Show all posts

Tuesday, July 06, 2010

Private detectives: A Pre-Nuptial Priority for Some in India

NEW DELHI — The wedding, to be celebrated in sumptuous Indian style, was due for June and everything was progressing smoothly until the groom suddenly lost interest.

Suspicious of an affair, the bride did what increasing numbers of anxious lovers and nervous families are doing in India: she rang a private detective to find out why.

In a country where nine out of 10 marriages are still arranged and modern social pressures are putting the institution under pressure, the industry of snooping on lovers has expanded fast over the last five years, say insiders.

In this case an investigation by the agency AMX -- "marriage is a gamble," says its website -- revealed that the groom had recently discovered he was HIV positive.

The discovery was made by an attractive female undercover agent sent by the agency, who befriended the groom and found his medicine.

The wedding was eventually called off, like 20 percent of cases after a probe, AMX boss Baldev Kumar Puri told AFP.

"A pre-matrimonial investigation is your duty," Puri said. "A post matrimonial investigation is much more costly."

Puri and others, like Kunwar Vikram Singh, director of the New Delhi-based Lancers agency, are in a growth industry being driven by social changes and the way in which weddings are arranged.

In cities, families are relying increasingly on small advertisements in newspapers and websites or specialist dating agencies to find the perfect match for their children.

The problem is that everyone exaggerates, or even lies, about their qualities.

"Unlike the old days when a close-knit society meant that marriages were usually held between known families, these days marriages are increasingly being arranged through unknown, unfamiliar sources," said Singh.

"There is an increased risk involved in dealing with strangers."

To bridge the trust gap, private detectives are taken on to assess candidates without their knowledge.


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Wednesday, March 31, 2010

The Online 'Pre-Marital Detectives' Making Marriage a Safer Proposal

A surge in the number of arranged weddings brokered online has given rise to India’s first web-based “premarital detective” service — a supplier of private eyes who will snoop on prospective in-laws.

A multitude of matrimonial websites have sprung up in recent years, catering to every niche of Indian society from the obese to lovelorn eunuchs.

The sites are populated by an estimated 40 million singletons, whose online profiles specify everything from their regional roots and caste to their academic achievements, skin tones and professions. In a country where 95 per cent of marriages are arranged by parents such tools have proven hugely popular.

With online matrimony, however, nothing can be taken at face value. The number of internet-enabled marriages — many of which involve the payment of a large dowry by a bride’s family — has paved the way for misrepresentation on a massive scale, experts say.

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